30 Directives from 30 Years: Advice for my 20-Year-Old Self

Live like Lincoln. Surrounded by foundational pillars

“It's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years.”Abraham Lincoln I recently turned 30 years old. Yikes. I remember turning 20 like it was yesterday. It’s hard to believe 10 years has passed in such a flash! I’ve been told that time seems to move faster the older you…

Site Update: August 2020

Coming to you from a new apartment, new environment, and new beginnings. August was my fourth month on this blog, and perhaps the most eventful. There were lots of ups, downs, and everything in between in August. I wrote five essays that meant a lot to me personally, I moved with my girlfriend to a…

The Impermanence of Life: A Heuristic for Handling Loss

Impermanence in sand

The moments of deepest contentment in my life have come in moments when I am forced to accept the impermanence of it. I knew it was coming. That text or that phone call would come, and I wouldn’t know how to handle it. Then, at 2:00pm on Thursday, the dreaded text came through: my grandfather,…

Growing Up with Two Mentally Ill Parents

Growing Up with Two Mentally Ill Parents

No one is watching. No one is listening. No one cares. It’s funny, when you want to send something out to the world, those words are among your greatest fears. But when you want to keep something in from the world, those words can bring you the greatest comfort. So, what happens when those two…

How to Make Time to Reinvent Yourself

Be kind to your future self. If you feel stuck, the best thing you can possibly do for future "you" is to make time to reinvent present "you." Six months ago, I was totally out of answers. It was a chilly, dreary January day in Denver, Colorado. I had just left my job at a…

11 Modern Books for Revolutionizing Your Life

Read books

"Reading books is the real-life version of collecting mushrooms in Super Mario.” — Random guy on Twitter Ever walk down the aisles of a bookstore and feel an intense FOMO on all the books you want to read? You realize that time on Earth is finite, and when you combine the fact that you need to…

Pencil Paradigm Shifts: Small Moments that Make a Big Difference

Paradigm shifts are fundamental changes in our thinking and are powerful influences in what become our habits. They can fast-track our formation of new habits, unlike any other experience. So, what if I told you some of your good habits can be formed in the blink of an eye? Habits are the building blocks of…

Writing Will Redefine Your Life

Writing Will Redefine Your Life

Writing is where all human action, connection, and persuasion begin. When they say “the pen is mightier than the sword,” it’s not just because it sounds good, sounds contrarian, or that it is a rallying cry for all introverts and nerds. It is because it is true. There is a deeper, visceral, intrinsic value to…

How to be Extraordinarily Ordinary

How to be Extraordinarily Ordinary

Follow these simple guidelines for an ordinary, dull, and monotonous life: Believe everything people tell you (especially those you agree with).Try your hardest not to stand out.Stay close to home or within a 20 mile radius (preferably less).Get a job for the money, not for the meaning it brings to you and others.Do something because…

How to Cook Steak Like a Pro: From Novice to Chef in One Night

Learn to Cook

"A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook…

Why Gamblers Never Win in the Long Run

In life, there are two types of people: strategists and gamblers. Chess players and slots players. Only one wins in the long-run. 1:00am, Las Vegas, NV The casino floor is packed. 1 AM in one of the world’s busiest casinos is not the best time or place to be wandering aimlessly to look for two…